Middle School, Just As bad As You Remember It!

It’s been a while between posts but as we are pretty much snowed in today I thought I would take a second to update. We got a call last week from the middle school letting me know there was a problem but they couldn’t really give a lot of details but told me the principal would be contacting me shortly to go over what happened. Well, I’m not really a ‘wait for a phone call’ kind of parent so I headed up to the school for an in person meeting. I quickly found out that he was playing, acting like a robot, & some kids that were in the same area didn’t like it so one of them grabbed him by the hood of the jacket throwing him to the ground. My son hit his head on the ground but the school said he seemed okay so they sent him back to class. When I got into the principles office I was told that they were pretty sure my son & the kids he was playing with were playing this ‘game’ in the area of the other kids to ‘annoy’ them. I was told at that time that he was just shoved down to the ground & hit his head, only getting the full story later. I know this all sounds bad & that I should be super upset that this kid did it but when talking to the school I was told the offending kid is a good kid & the principle knows his family… yeah… I feel so much better now! So all is forgiven because the kids parents are friends with the staff? They were quick to let me know that my son got up from the ground & told the bully ‘F#@k fudgeYou!” Was I surprised that my autistic angel knew this word that his dad has never used before!?! 🙂 YES, I don’t know wheeeerrrreeee he would have heard that word! But on the same page, you throw me down & I slam my head against the ground I’m probably going to give you a few choice words as well. Do I condone him talking like that, no. Did I have a talk with him about it, yes. Am I going to bust his chops over it, no way! Honestly I’m more stoked that he used it in the right context 🙂 Autism Win! (Shhhhh don’t tell anyone I said that!)

So let me get this all lined out; My son was playing, another kid came up behind him because the fact that my sons was playing a game in his vicinity was annoying & grabbed him by the hood of his coat throwing him down on the ground & hitting his head on the ground, & I’m told my son said a bad word & the other kid is a good kid from a good family! Just another example of solid logic used by our public school system here in progressive Oklahoma. So frustrating!

Crazy days but all will even out. I think things are getting back to normal. Thankfully right after that incident was his 12th birthday so we gave him the option a party of a day where we did 10959669_10200301319452823_3017764049307308822_nwhat ever he wanted to do. He wanted to go eat at his favorite restaurant & go buy him a new keyboard. He really wanted one that would sample, loop, & allow him to compose his own music. Some of his music is getting really good, most days you can find him in his room writing music notes in his notebook. I thought it was strange that he wanted to go to a super authentic
mexican restaurant for his birthday since he will not eat it but we sat down & he ordered chicken strips with french fries. Hey, what ever he wants! The staff heard us talking about his birthday, they brought out their sombrero for him & sang. He was so excited.

 

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A look back at him growing up…ouch! How did we get so old!

 

3 thoughts on “Middle School, Just As bad As You Remember It!

  1. Jeanne Fitzgerald

    Hi–you said your son likes to compose music. There is free music composition software called musescore. (Google “musescore”). You don’t need a special keyboard. You can print out the music, but even better, the computer will play it for you. My grandson, an Aspie of the math and music kind, who is 8 years old, has been using it since he was 6.

    Thanks for your blog. It’s interesting to kind of see into the future, since your son is older than my grandson. We are homeschooling at this point.

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  2. Kyle Reece Mann

    Hi Tom, this School incident was like one I was involved in, except I live in the UK and my Teacher made fun of me, I am 17 now and have Asperger’s too. Anyway, my classmate knew I could not take banter at all and was asking me for a fight all day for a reaction in front of the class, so after another 5 minutes of this I said “ok I will give a fight” so I walked up to him and punched him in the face. Trust me, I know what Jayden is going through as an Aspie like me. Oh yea, about the F***k you thing. I have never said a bad word in front of my parents ever in my 17 years of life, but when I am with friends, I say every bad word under the sun, so here is some advice: you might find Jayden says a lot more bad words than you think when he is at School with friends like I do. Hope this helped you out a bit, greetings to everyone from across the pond 🙂

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